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On comparisons and being enough

Hi, I’m Leah and I blog over at www.justmeleah.co.uk.

Only in the last couple of years since I’ve immersed myself in the plus size world on the internet have I felt it’s OK – as a fat woman – to be myself. I’m a feminist and have slowly realised some of my deep-rooted beliefs have been programmed into me from a young age and aren’t actually my beliefs. It means I now have a healthy dose of cynicism towards popular opinion and the illusion of perfection.

One of the most important things I’ve realised is that women are encouraged to be competitive in a way which differs to the way men are. Chimamada Ngozi Adichie said it best:

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With this expectation on women to diminish themselves physically I think the media (and the internet particularly) can be a toxic place. If we want to look for someone slimmer or prettier than us we can find proof of our comparative ‘wrongness’ in a second. Key for me in embracing myself as is has been binning magazines and newspapers which are focussed on the ‘slim=everything good’ message and the inevitably diet-obsessed culture that follows. You only have to read the womens’ section on any online newspaper to see the positive words used to describe thin bodies and in contrast the judgemental words used to describe fuller bodies – words like ‘lardy’, ‘flabby’ and ‘corpulent’ abound. Instead I choose to surround myself with positive plus size people who are living their lives happily just as they are. Blogs and Tumblr are a great source of inspiration for me and I don’t miss magazines or popular-culture filled newspapers at all.

Aside from the physical comparisons women are implicitly and explicitly coached into throughout our lives, we are also encouraged to compete to be the most accomplished at everything we do, which can be a double edged sword. A quick look through my Facebook or Twitter newsfeed can easily become a depressing read as I see the vibrant, go-getting women I’m lucky enough to have in my life achieving truly impressive things. Most of the time I’m thrilled for my friends and acquaintances, but even though I know comparisons are the root of all evil, sometimes I’m still sucked in and end up beating myself up for the ways I lack genius in comparison. This quote by Steve Furtick always makes me feel better:

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I think for women especially, comparisons to each other come as easy as breathing and they serve to diminish us mentally and physically, to make us weak and malleable, to stop us from achieving great things. Know that as long as you are doing your best at whatever you devote your time to in life, you are enough.  The only person you ever have to compete with is you. Aim to be a slightly better version of you tomorrow than you were today and you can’t go wrong. You are enough. Just keep swimming.

Thanks for reading,

Leah
xoxo

 

Meeting Tess Munster!

tess001Last Thursday, the gorgeous Tess Munster held a ‘meet & greet’ in Melbourne. Being a ‘fan’ of Tess’s for ages now, I thought I’d try and get to the event, and luckily a fellow member of Aussie Curves was nice enough to pick me up & drop me home! I’m still getting used to Melbourne, and it was an area I had no idea how to get to. The event started at 5pm & Stacey and I arrived around 7pm.

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This photo was taken shortly after we arrived, can you spot me? Thats me standing about a cm away from the right of the bar. I didn’t realise my hair had grown so long! The que was long and we ended up waiting nearly 2 hours, but I have to say, it was well worth it! Tess was as gorgeous in real life as she is in pictures, and she was so very very very sweet!

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Me again, right in the corner of this photo. Waiting my turn! I didn’t chat too long, I can be quite shy and I could only imagine how tired she was. The flier stater 5-9 and I met her around 8:45 and the que was still halfway down that stair case! She signed my bag, and we talked a little about Sydney, Melbourne and Adelaide, and got a few photos. Sadly, most of mine didn’t turn out, apart from out ‘selfie’ above.

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I also had the chance to have a quick talk to her boyfriend fiance Nick, who was pretty awesome. Even though I’m female, I felt some slight beard envy. It’s a thing. I’m so glad I went, as the atmosphere was amazing! I got to catch up with some fellow plus size ladies (& Aussie Curves members!) and managed to see a bit more of what Melbourne’s night life is like!

All images, except the top selfie, are by Cherie. You can see more images from the night on her facebook page and make sure you check out her instagram!

Curvy Couture Roadshow – The Runway

Show 1 – Beachwear & Contemporary

Robyn Lawley Swimwear |  Beyond the Sea Swimwear | Meri by Design | Lucabella

I learnt a couple of things at the CCR, and one of those is, make sure your camera batteries are all charged, and even if they are, bring the charger along anyway. I arrived on the day with 2 battery packs, and as the catwalk started, the first set died. Cue me running off to the media room to try and dig out my other battery pack. Sigh. So I missed out on seeing a few of these.

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Show 2 – Contemporary

17 Sundays | Harlow | Embody Denim | Christine Kardashian

I have much love for all these labels, though only own 17 Sundays and Harlow items. While I am on a major spending ban, I did pick up one thing, a Harlow top on sale, but I’ll be doing a post on my CCR lustlist! That will include the 17 Sundays outfits in the dual pictures below. WANT!

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Show 3 – Lingerie, Vintage & Retro Inspired

Sonsee | Miss Scarlett Did It | Professor’s Daughter Bombshell Vintage

Boy did the models rock this! One of the things I loved about the show was that it incorporated so many different body shapes and sizes. I loved seeing plus size ladies strut their stuff in gorgeous clothes, and in lingerie! It was refreshing, and the crowd went nuts for it! My camera also didn’t like to focus on sequins, I am super sad I couldn’t get a focused shot on THIS AMAZING dress by Bombshell Vintage. If I ever get married, I want to wear that dress!

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Show 4 – Active, Edgy & Vintage

Curvy Chic Sports Seraphim | Misty BelvidereMarji & Jean | Hey Fatty | Fox Parse

Again, with camera batteries! My camera died during the Misty Belvidere set, and I wanted to cry. I took the time to sit and just watch the rest of the show and loved getting caught up in watching, rather then snapping away pictures. I think this show may have been my favourite, just because of such individuality in the designs. Seraphim, Misty Belvedere and Marji & Jean were my faves!

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(Note: Gallery images have loaded from newest to oldest. Which means the first photos are from Show 4, and the last images are from Show 1)