Hi, I’m Leah and I blog over at www.justmeleah.co.uk.
Only in the last couple of years since I’ve immersed myself in the plus size world on the internet have I felt it’s OK – as a fat woman – to be myself. I’m a feminist and have slowly realised some of my deep-rooted beliefs have been programmed into me from a young age and aren’t actually my beliefs. It means I now have a healthy dose of cynicism towards popular opinion and the illusion of perfection.
One of the most important things I’ve realised is that women are encouraged to be competitive in a way which differs to the way men are. Chimamada Ngozi Adichie said it best:
With this expectation on women to diminish themselves physically I think the media (and the internet particularly) can be a toxic place. If we want to look for someone slimmer or prettier than us we can find proof of our comparative ‘wrongness’ in a second. Key for me in embracing myself as is has been binning magazines and newspapers which are focussed on the ‘slim=everything good’ message and the inevitably diet-obsessed culture that follows. You only have to read the womens’ section on any online newspaper to see the positive words used to describe thin bodies and in contrast the judgemental words used to describe fuller bodies – words like ‘lardy’, ‘flabby’ and ‘corpulent’ abound. Instead I choose to surround myself with positive plus size people who are living their lives happily just as they are. Blogs and Tumblr are a great source of inspiration for me and I don’t miss magazines or popular-culture filled newspapers at all.
Aside from the physical comparisons women are implicitly and explicitly coached into throughout our lives, we are also encouraged to compete to be the most accomplished at everything we do, which can be a double edged sword. A quick look through my Facebook or Twitter newsfeed can easily become a depressing read as I see the vibrant, go-getting women I’m lucky enough to have in my life achieving truly impressive things. Most of the time I’m thrilled for my friends and acquaintances, but even though I know comparisons are the root of all evil, sometimes I’m still sucked in and end up beating myself up for the ways I lack genius in comparison. This quote by Steve Furtick always makes me feel better:
I think for women especially, comparisons to each other come as easy as breathing and they serve to diminish us mentally and physically, to make us weak and malleable, to stop us from achieving great things. Know that as long as you are doing your best at whatever you devote your time to in life, you are enough. The only person you ever have to compete with is you. Aim to be a slightly better version of you tomorrow than you were today and you can’t go wrong. You are enough. Just keep swimming.
Thanks for reading,
Subscriptions boxes have been around a few years now, ranging from food, toys, beauty, fashion & even ones for your pets! Australia is still somewhat limited compared to the US, but a few US based boxes, such as Loot Crate and Nerd Block do deliver to Australia. As you can imagine, I’d love to subscribe to them, but I probably have enough geeky nerdy toys to last me a life time!
I’ve subscribed to a few Beauty & Fashion boxes over the years, a couple which are still going, and a few who are no more. I thought i’d share a list of 5 currently available boxes that I either subscribe to, or are interested in.
I’ve been a subscriber to Bellabox from it’s very first month! With this months box marking it’s 3rd year, it means I currently have 35 box worth of stuff from them. And if you wanted to know, yes, I’ve kept ALL those boxes! They come in handy for neat storage! I’ve subscribed to a number of boxes over the years and this is one that has always ticked the boxes for me. I’ve found some interesting and new products, and most of the items are affordable to re-buy if you fall in love. Sadly, with the move and rent rise, I think I’m going to have to cancel my subscription. I’ve been very pleased while it’s lasted.
I’ve subscribed to Lust Have It twice, I believe. Once when it originally started, and again late last year. I quite like Lust Have It, but when it came down to it, I just couldn’t afford it to keep getting it. They have some of my favourite brands available in their shop though, such as Sugarpill, Klara and Lime Crime. It is a box that I loved though, and if I had the money, I would still be subscribed to.
OTHER: They have a quarterly Eco box that I’m hoping to try in the future. I’ve been paying a lot more attention to what I put on my body lately and the idea of a box catered to natural product really appeals to me. They also have a monthly Fashion and Beauty (FaB) box, as well as a Bridal Box!
I actually have The Parcel on it’s way to me now! I’m excited to see what it’s like. I like the idea of queartly boxes, I do find with weekly boxes that I don’t always have time to trial all the products before a new box arrives and I end up with a draw full of samples. I think this gives you more time to trial the products, and it’s also works out cheaper. Would you be interested in me shooting a box opening video?
OTHER: Nothing as of yet, but you can sign up your interest for a ‘Girlfriend’ box.
Native Box have a few boxes, and one is Beauty Box. As I mentioned above, I’ve been trying to buy a lot more natural products, so this quarterly box which caters to eco friendly products.
HFB has always intrigued me, but at $40 a month, it’s never been something I could justify. You get 2-3 on trend fashion accessories, as well as at least 4 beauty & lifestyle accessories. They’ve worked with some great brands and accessories have ranged from blinging jewellery, scarves and even some awesome cat eye sunnies!
OTHER: They teamed up with Nicola Finetti to create this awesome limited edition box!
Halloween isn’t an Australian tradition. It’s slowly becoming popular over the years, with kids trick or treating around the area. Some shops now stock bits and pieces of Halloween goodies to decoration your house with, but really, it’s not something you see much of. Luckily, with the internet, you can buy so much online, and I have to say, I just LOVE all the spooky clothing that comes out at this time of year. I bought a ghost jumper last halloween, and I wear it ALL YEAR ROUND! Why not!? So here are a few of my favourite things that I would totally rock in any month!
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