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Goodbye Tonka

This is so hard to write. So so so hard. Last night, on Mothers Day, I made the hard decision to have my little man put to sleep. It was heartbreaking, and to say I’m absolutely gutted is an understatement.

12/08/2010 – 14/05/2017

If you follow the blog on facebook or Instagram, you’ll know that Tonka has been unwell. Just over a month ago, we took him for some tests as he was losing weight and vomiting more than normal. We were thinking maybe thyroid issues or diabetes. What it confirmed was unexpected. Kidney disease.

He spent a few days at the vets, on fluids, started on a new diet and medication. The fluids helped a bit, but after a long talk with our vet, the hard truth was that she suspected that if he lasted 6 months, he’d be lucky. He was still acting like his normal self and we decided we’d just make the rest of his life super happy.

The rate at which he deteriorated was drastic. We only found out a month ago and with how he was, we were optimistic that we’d get those 6 months. Even until his last day he was eating SO much. Sadly, over this last month, he’d lost so much weight. I’d never been so knowledgeable about a cat skeleton then I was just from patting him.

The decline was daily and on Friday, I ended up booking him in for next Saturday to see his Vet. I was thinking it may be his time then but was going to see what Claire thought. On Saturday, I rang and changed that appointment to Claires next available, which was Tuesday. Sunday came, Mothers Day, and by 8pm, I wasn’t sure he’d make it to the vets opening in 12 hours. So I made the decision to take him to the AEC.

I had slept with him in my arms, as he so often did, and spent a bit of the day in bed with him. He’d been super clingy. So much so that when I went and had a bath, he sat on me the whole time. He had a whole lot of his favourite food, tinned tuna, some ham, and what I call ‘kitty crack sticks‘. He’d stopped eating and drinking by the afternoon, and was all twitchy, finding it hard to walk. You could see in his eyes he was done, he was just tired, drained and uncomfortable.

I feel so blessed to have had Tonka in my life. I had expected it to be for a lot, lot longer, but the time we shared was special. He was an amazing cat and he charmed so many people. Even people who didn’t like cats warmed up to Tonky. He was loud and opinionated, but loving and clinging. He was well travelled, having flown more than some humans. Sydney to Melbourne, Melbourne to Sydney and then Sydney to Melbourne again.

You can read the blog and watch the vlog about the day I adopted him here.

I love you Tonka, so much and I will miss you more than I can express. I know you are at peace now and will be snuggling away with Mr Frodo.


Outfit – Grungy Grey Chic

In Melbourne, you wear layers. It’s something I’m still learning. The mix of this hi-low dress and my oversized chambray jacket made me feel very 90’s grunge. Even more so when I added in my headphones.

Plus size OOTD - Grunge Grey

When I go and see my psych, I like to be comfortable. There is a 90% chance i’m going to cry, so I always go make up free. I’m so glad I found a psych I like here in Melbourne, even if it is an hour journey each way to see him. My mental health has been pretty horrid lately, so i’m on a fortnightly schedule. It’d be weekly if I could afford it.

Plus size OOTD - Grunge Grey

To dress it up and make it more me, I added my cat women brooch and cat belt. My head has been on all things cat lately with my Tonka being so sick. I adore Karolin Felix‘s art and I bought this brooch around 7 years ago!

Plus size OOTD - Grunge Grey

Jacket – Crossroads || Dress – Katies || Belt – ASOS Curve || Boots – Betts
Stockings – Sonsee || Brooch – Karolin Felix

Plus size OOTD - Grunge Grey

As you can tell, I’m still on the grey kick I mentioned. I have to stop myself from picking up anything I see in grey, though I am looking for the perfect grey bag!

What colour have you been drawn to lately?

Outfit and Event – Supanova Melbourne

Last Sunday, I headed out to Supanova. For those who have been looong time readers, you’ll know I used to work in the convention industry. My last con was 6 years ago, so it’s been an age since I’ve been to one. Boy have they grown! I was quite stunned at just how huge it’s grown.

Plus size OOTD - Black Milk Ursula and Disney Villains

Having put a poll on Twitter asking which of two outfits I should wear, and the clear winner was an Ursula/Disney Villians themed outfit. I think it turned out pretty well and I was super comfy. Seeing as I was working on three hours of sleep comfort was a big thing.

Supanova - Welcome to the Wolfpack Panel - Keri Arthur, Patricia Briggs and Maria Lewis

One of the main reasons I headed to Supanova was the Authors! Three of my favourite authors were there and on Sunday they had a panel I really wanted to see. “Welcome to the Wolfpack” was a panel featuring Keri Arthur, Patricia Briggs and Maria Lewis all about their take on Werewolves. The panel was packed with feminism, history and lots of laughs.

Plus size OOTD - Black Milk Ursula and Disney Villains

Lack of sleep meant eyebags larger than normal. That problem was solved by going all out with glitter! Yep, I was up at 6:30am to do my hair and makeup. I played around with a wrap necklace to create a harness type effect and use that to pin my Ursula brooch on.

Plus size OOTD - Black Milk Ursula and Disney Villains

My hair has some major regrowth going on and is in desperate need of a dye, so I decided to wear a wig. I braided my hair into the front and covered it with my trusty flower headband. It apparently seemed real enough I had a lady ask what dye I used!

Plus size OOTD - Black Milk Ursula and Disney Villains

Jacket – Black Milk || Leggings – Black Milk || Tunic – Crossroads  || Boots – Betts
Headband – I don’t remember || Wig – Ebay || Brooch – Baccurelli

Plus size OOTD - Black Milk Ursula and Disney Villains - With Maria LewisMyself with Author Maria Lewis

All these photos were taken in the afternoon. I forgot to put setting spray on my make up but luckily it stayed put brilliantly. If I can say so myself! I had a brilliant day and picked up heaps of fun things I can’t wait to share in upcoming posts.

Have you been to a convention before?